Like 1 Timothy 5:24 says, some men's sins are out ahead of them in plain sight while others trail behind them. In this instance, Haggard's sin finally caught up with him after his admittedly many years of battling in shame and secrecy. This is a wake-up call for all Christian leaders to be open and honest about sin and temptation before it ends up in a similar scandalous scenario.
The leaders of his church are to be commended. They acted swiftly but not hastily. They wisely brought in outside counsel, obeyed the Scripture's command to do nothing out of 'partiality or favoritism' and by all accounts are to be commended for doing a good job in a difficult situation.
Gayle (Haggard's wife) and their five children need all of our prayers as they are undoubtedly suffering greatly. In this we see that, as the head of their homes, men are either a blessing or a curse to their families; the question is not if we will implicate them in our life, but only whether it will be for their joy or sorrow. Contrary to some who misrepresented my prior blog, Gayle is in no way responsible for the sin of her husband and by all accounts seems to have been a lovely and devoted wife.
This is a good opportunity for every Christian leader to revisit the biblical qualifications of our office. There are two primary places where the Bible defines the qualifications of an elder (1 Timothy 2:11-3:7; Titus 1:5-9), and the lists are virtually identical. Therefore, to help you understand these qualifications, I will briefly list and explain them from their appearance in Timothy.
1 Timothy 3:1-7Here is a trustworthy saying: If anyone sets his heart on being an overseer, he desires a noble task. Now the overseer must be above reproach, the husband of but one wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money. He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him with proper respect. (If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God's church?) He must not be a recent convert, or he may become conceited and fall under the same judgment as the devil. He must also have a good reputation with outsiders, so that he will not fall into disgrace and into the devil's trap.
17 Qualifications of an Elder-Pastor from 1 Timothy 3:1-7 Relation to God
A man - masculine leader
Above reproach - without any character defect
Able to teach - effective Bible communicator
Not a new convert - mature Christian
Relation to Family
Husband of one wife - one-woman man, sexually pure (this does not require a man to be married, as Paul, Timothy, Jesus, and widowed men could qualify)
Has obedient children - successful father
Manages family well - provides for, leads, organizes, loves
Relation to Self
Temperate - mentally and emotionally stable
Self-controlled - disciplined life of sound decision-making
Not given to drunkenness - without addictions
Not a lover of money - financially content and upright
Relation to Others
Respectable - worth following and imitating
Hospitable - welcomes strangers, especially non-Christians for evangelism
Not violent - even-tempered
Gentle - kind, gracious, loving
Not contentious - peaceable, not quarrelsome or divisive
Good reputation with outsiders - respected by non-Christians
This is a good time for every church board to evaluate their bylaws and make sure that they have provisions for how to proceed if/when questions or accusations arise against senior leaders. If there is not clarity on how to handle these kinds of situations, precious time is wasted because the church is scrambling to decide how it should act rather than simple acting. The bylaws must also include what Scripture says on the matter, such as:
James 3:1Not many of you should presume to be teachers, my brothers, because you know that we who teach will be judged more strictly.
1 Timothy 5:19-2119 Do not entertain an accusation against an elder unless it is brought by two or three witnesses. 20 Those who sin are to be rebuked publicly, so that the others may take warning. 21 I charge you, in the sight of God and Christ Jesus and the elect angels, to keep these instructions without partiality, and to do nothing out of favoritism. (see also Deuteronomy 19:15-19)
The entire church gets a black eye from situations like this. The late-night comedians will likely be making jokes for some time. Those who like to point out Christian hypocrisy now have a mountain of rocks to throw. Stepping in to replace Haggard as the leader of the National Association of Evangelicals is Leith Anderson, who pastors a church in Minnesota. Let-s all be in prayer for him. I have had the pleasure of meeting him a few times and found him to be a good man who is now in a very tough situation.
I've commented on a few blogs, (even though I'm pretty un-impressed by blog comment conversations as any form of decent communication) that attributing your comments to Gayle Haggard is pretty unfair and weak. Not that you need me sticking up for you..I've actually thought a lot since my first Reform and Resurge conference this year about the messages from Darrin Patrick and Matt Chandler. We need those messages 12 times a year.. Now I'm going to print off Ted Haggards resignation letter and tape it into my bible. Thanks for all the wise counsel Mark. It challenges us and calls us the Christ-likeness. God bless you guys..
The Haggard situation is a good wake up call for all Christian leaders to evaluate their life, the life of fellow leaders in their ministry, and the procedures that are in place for such situations. I have not met the Haggards so I cannot speak to any specifics in their life. Sadly, I have been involved to varying degrees with numerous occurrences where young Christian leaders and pastors have fallen into sin. Most of my experience has been with both young pastors committing emotional and/or physical adulter, or their wives doing the same. As I have met with many of these couples it became apparent that they were not connected to one another with as much intimacy and openness as they needed, and did not tend to themselves or one another which opened the door for frustration, bitterness, and temptation. And, while each individual is responsible for their own sin, in marriage we should love God and our spouse enough to tend to ourselves and them sufficiently to work for satisfying intimacy and oneness. This, of course, applies to both husbands and wives.
Hi Pastor Mark... I would NEVER presume to debate you. You'd crush me. There's just one thing that bugs me: You used the phrase, "fallen into sin". I don't think that anyone "falls" (implying they accidentally sin)... they jump.
Haggard, and all of christian pastors you met with, knew what they were doing, knew it was wrong, had the Holy Spirit convicting them, had the Father giving them a way out, and had the opportunity to walk away... and didn't take it. Though it's a terrible situation, need our support and prayers at this time, let's not let them off the proverbial hook for the act of sinning.
Is the devil to blame? Sure. But only for the temptation, not the act of the sin.
Am I right here? Or is my French Canadian-ness (which I have repented from) clouding my judgement? (I'm reading Radical Reformission...)
Al - I don't want to debate you either, but let me offer some food for though. You said, "I don't think that anyone "falls" (implying they accidentally sin)... they jump."
I'm not sure about that. Remember, sin isn't really what we do, it's who we are. As we rebel in little ways, our hearts harden and lesser sins feel acceptable. We continue to push the boundaries, and over months and years our hearts become so seared that we don't even feel shame and guilt. As this process continues our increasingly disgusting actions reflect the workings of an increasingly wicked heart. People find themselves doing things they never considered themselves capable of.
This is the story of many people I've counseled. One man was addicted to child pornography. He didn't jump into that sin; he began with mail-order catalogs. As he slowly desensitized himself, he stepped into more hard-core pornography and soon found himself numb to that. Child pornography was the next step. If you had asked that man three years ago if he would ever consider looking at kiddy porn, he would have honestly said "no." That man was living out James 1:14-15 "each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire. Then desire when it has conceived gives birth to sin, and sin when it is fully grown brings forth death." I'm reminded of Lot who first looked at Sodom, then lived near Sodom and soon was one of the leaders of the city.
Does all this let Haggard (or anyone else) off the hook? Heck no. He's as guilty as David was when he killed Uriah after bedding Bathsheba.
If anything, this puts ME on the hook. I can't piously sit back and say, "I'd never do that." Left to my own desires I'm as capable of adultery, homosexuality, drunkenness or any other sin as any other man. What I need to do (and what Mark is suggesting) is to make sure I nip any sin in the bud before it is conceived and has a chance to give birth to full grown death.
Those are the sorts of things I'm preaching to myself during this season ... I hope it's helpful. If it isn't I don't have Canada to blame... but I do drink Labatt's. Does that count?
Yes, Labatt's counts... but Big Rock counts DOUBLE!
Great comments. It's so important to remember that it all starts with a thought. I'm learning more and more that I must take "every thought captive" for Christ, lest I "give the devil a foothold". "We can't stop the birds from flying over our heads, but we can stop them from making a nest in our hair", right?
For some more great insight check out Tim Challies comments on CJ Mahaney's writings for pastors. At the bottom of Challies' article is a link to Mahaney's pdf.
I've commented on a few blogs, (even though I'm pretty un-impressed by blog comment conversations as any form of decent communication) that attributing your comments to Gayle Haggard is pretty unfair and weak. Not that you need me sticking up for you..I've actually thought a lot since my first Reform and Resurge conference this year about the messages from Darrin Patrick and Matt Chandler. We need those messages 12 times a year.. Now I'm going to print off Ted Haggards resignation letter and tape it into my bible. Thanks for all the wise counsel Mark. It challenges us and calls us the Christ-likeness. God bless you guys..
The Haggard situation is a good wake up call for all Christian leaders to evaluate their life, the life of fellow leaders in their ministry, and the procedures that are in place for such situations. I have not met the Haggards so I cannot speak to any specifics in their life. Sadly, I have been involved to varying degrees with numerous occurrences where young Christian leaders and pastors have fallen into sin. Most of my experience has been with both young pastors committing emotional and/or physical adulter, or their wives doing the same. As I have met with many of these couples it became apparent that they were not connected to one another with as much intimacy and openness as they needed, and did not tend to themselves or one another which opened the door for frustration, bitterness, and temptation. And, while each individual is responsible for their own sin, in marriage we should love God and our spouse enough to tend to ourselves and them sufficiently to work for satisfying intimacy and oneness. This, of course, applies to both husbands and wives.
Hi Pastor Mark... I would NEVER presume to debate you. You'd crush me. There's just one thing that bugs me: You used the phrase, "fallen into sin". I don't think that anyone "falls" (implying they accidentally sin)... they jump.
Haggard, and all of christian pastors you met with, knew what they were doing, knew it was wrong, had the Holy Spirit convicting them, had the Father giving them a way out, and had the opportunity to walk away... and didn't take it. Though it's a terrible situation, need our support and prayers at this time, let's not let them off the proverbial hook for the act of sinning.
Is the devil to blame? Sure. But only for the temptation, not the act of the sin.
Am I right here? Or is my French Canadian-ness (which I have repented from) clouding my judgement? (I'm reading Radical Reformission...)
Al - I don't want to debate you either, but let me offer some food for though. You said, "I don't think that anyone "falls" (implying they accidentally sin)... they jump."
I'm not sure about that. Remember, sin isn't really what we do, it's who we are. As we rebel in little ways, our hearts harden and lesser sins feel acceptable. We continue to push the boundaries, and over months and years our hearts become so seared that we don't even feel shame and guilt. As this process continues our increasingly disgusting actions reflect the workings of an increasingly wicked heart. People find themselves doing things they never considered themselves capable of.
This is the story of many people I've counseled. One man was addicted to child pornography. He didn't jump into that sin; he began with mail-order catalogs. As he slowly desensitized himself, he stepped into more hard-core pornography and soon found himself numb to that. Child pornography was the next step. If you had asked that man three years ago if he would ever consider looking at kiddy porn, he would have honestly said "no." That man was living out James 1:14-15 "each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire. Then desire when it has conceived gives birth to sin, and sin when it is fully grown brings forth death." I'm reminded of Lot who first looked at Sodom, then lived near Sodom and soon was one of the leaders of the city.
Does all this let Haggard (or anyone else) off the hook? Heck no. He's as guilty as David was when he killed Uriah after bedding Bathsheba.
If anything, this puts ME on the hook. I can't piously sit back and say, "I'd never do that." Left to my own desires I'm as capable of adultery, homosexuality, drunkenness or any other sin as any other man. What I need to do (and what Mark is suggesting) is to make sure I nip any sin in the bud before it is conceived and has a chance to give birth to full grown death.
Those are the sorts of things I'm preaching to myself during this season ... I hope it's helpful. If it isn't I don't have Canada to blame... but I do drink Labatt's. Does that count?
Yes, Labatt's counts... but Big Rock counts DOUBLE!
Great comments. It's so important to remember that it all starts with a thought. I'm learning more and more that I must take "every thought captive" for Christ, lest I "give the devil a foothold". "We can't stop the birds from flying over our heads, but we can stop them from making a nest in our hair", right?
Cheers!
For some more great insight check out Tim Challies comments on CJ Mahaney's writings for pastors. At the bottom of Challies' article is a link to Mahaney's pdf.
HT: Tim Challies via Justin Taylor.